My brother said all there is to say really about our loss: http://capetowny.blogspot.com/
I can add nothing of value in addition, only share that my pain is sometimes acute, but mostly just a numbness.
If some lives form a perfect circle, others take shape in ways we cannot predict or always understand. Loss has been a part of my journey but it has also shown me what is precious. So has a love for which I can only be grateful. (Message in a Bottle closing sequence)